Safety Tips

Consent Is Everything

Consent is the foundation of all healthy BDSM and kink interactions. Remember:

• Consent must be informed, enthusiastic, and ongoing.
• Consent can be withdrawn at any time, without explanation.
• Being in a D/s dynamic does not mean blanket consent — specific activities must be negotiated.
• Intoxication impairs the ability to consent. Do not engage in BDSM activities while under the influence.
• Silence is not consent. If in doubt, ask.

Safewords

Always establish a safeword (or safe signal for gagged play) before any scene. The traffic light system is widely used:

When a safeword is used, all activity must stop immediately. Check in with your partner and provide aftercare.

Meeting Someone New

• Meet in public first. Coffee, a munch, or a public kink event. Never go to a private location for a first meeting.
• Tell someone you trust. Share your plans, location, and the person's profile with a friend. Set up a check-in time.
• Video call first. Verify they are who they say they are before meeting in person.
• Drive yourself. Maintain your own transportation so you can leave at any time.
• Trust your instincts. If something feels off, leave. You owe no one an explanation.
• Verify references. In the kink community, it is common to ask for references from other play partners or community members.

BDSM Scene Safety

• Negotiate beforehand. Discuss hard limits, soft limits, desired activities, and health conditions before any scene.
• Start slow. Especially with new partners. Build trust incrementally.
• Keep safety tools nearby. EMT shears for rope, first aid kit, and a phone within reach.
• Learn proper technique. Attend workshops, read guides, and practice skills like rope bondage before using them on a partner.
• Aftercare is essential. After a scene, both partners may need physical and emotional care — water, blankets, reassurance, and debrief.
• Know the risks. Research the specific risks of any activity (e.g., nerve damage in bondage, positional asphyxia, skin damage from impact).

Online Safety

• Do not share personally identifying information (full name, address, workplace) early on.
• Be cautious about sharing explicit photos — strip metadata first and avoid showing identifying features.
• Beware of financial requests or scams. Never send money to someone you have not met.
• Use the Site's messaging system before switching to personal channels.
• Report suspicious or abusive behavior immediately.

Reporting & Getting Help

If you experience abuse, harassment, or feel unsafe:

• Use the Report button on any profile or message.
• Email us at safety@meetmyfetish.com.
• In an emergency, always contact local law enforcement first.